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There are times when people fall into a rut and are unable to
enjoy the simple pleasure of sex. The foregoing of sexual pleasure with
our mate is unacceptable and impedes sexual health. There is no excuse
for losing enjoyment during any sexual activity. One of the best ways
to kick-start the lust back into your life is by masturbating with your
partner.
Some individuals and religions view masturbation as being dirty,
immoral and wrong. While I will not trample on the beliefs of others, I
along with the majority of the earth’s inhabitants - from the most
primitive to the most intelligent of creatures disagree with them.
Pleasing ourself is natural and prepares us for future relationships as
a couple. Getting to know your body should be embraced and not frowned
upon. Haven’t you seen the monkeys at the zoo? Don’t they play with
themselves?
In an array of situations, couples find that they are unable to
please each other. This is mostly because the male doesn’t know how to
arouse the female. As a result of his failure to get her hot and
bothered, she doesn’t reciprocate to the level of his desire. Therefore
both are left unsatisfied. With masturbation, we are able to touch
ourselves, discern and discover what makes us “tick”. What could be a
better way to teach each other how we get off?
Sex is an activity that should always evolve. With evolving comes
learning and with learning comes communication. There are ways to
physically communicate to your mate during sex and ways to literally
say, “oh yeah, right there.” The best form of learning for a lot of
people is through visuals.
Instead of making a power point presentation and using a laser
pointer, masturbation is a much more arousing, not to mention fun
process. Make sure you are masturbating together and not solo. If you
are not used to masturbating in front of anyone, it may not be
comfortable right away so try and start together. Avoid silence and
making the setting awkward. Try lighting some candles or throw on some
sensual music; girls love that “romantic” stuff.
Guys and girls take note as your mate fondles themselves. Notice
where they rub and at what pace they are going at it. Also, observe the
pace as it increases closer to climax. Listen to them moan and watch
their body language. This is a great way to learn the signs of when
they are ready to orgasm.
Try talking about masturbation with your partner. Talk about how
and what they do to get themselves off. Some girls enjoy using
vibrators and other adult toys. These should not be frowned upon by a
partner but rather embraced. Most guys would love to watch their
partners use a vibrator on themselves. And yes, many of these toys are
also designed for stimulation of the man.
Masturbating with your partner doesn’t always have to come from a
lack of being able to please one another. A lot of people who know how
to satisfy each other masturbate together. You will be able to feed off
each others sexual energy without any physical contact at all. It’s
very exciting to watch and break slowly into touching each other.
Take each other by the hand and guide them as they learn the points, grip and touch that satisfies you the most.
If masturbation is being used as foreplay, the anticipation of sex
will be very high and the foreplay will get the juices flowing and
prepare her for insertion.
A member couple of Uncle Terry’s Sexual Advice Forum recently posted the following comment, which I found very enlightening.
Novices at couple’s masturbation need to realize the 4 levels of this deployment.
1.A teenager masturbates solo to solve his sexual needs while preparing himself for later love relations.
2.A young couple may choose masturbation because they do not want
to copulate yet. In fact it is the extension of teen masturbation and
they learn to discover each other at the same time before marriage or
while living together as they prepare for the next step in their
relationship.
3.A married or steady couple can use masturbation as foreplay
while preparing for intercourse or having the masturbation joy as a
variation to their normal intercourse.
4.A couple can decide not to have intercourse at all, and develop
masturbation as an art and a higher, intenser pleasure replacing normal
intercourses every time.
Regardless of your reason for masturbation, bringing the one we
love to the orgasmic phase is beautiful and rewarding. As lovers we
want to know what makes the other tick and what is a better way than
with mutual masturbation. It’s very educational to watch each other and
the show is priceless. When it comes to prevention of sexually
transmitted disease and pregnancy, masturbation is the safest form of
sex. So get out of a boring routine and start trying new things. Learn
with each other and become more satisfied sexually.
For more information
on relationships, sexuality, and masturbation visit
http://www.AskUncleTerry.com
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